{"id":76625,"date":"2022-02-17T17:19:18","date_gmt":"2022-02-17T22:19:18","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/emilyfieldrd.com\/?p=76625"},"modified":"2022-02-28T17:25:09","modified_gmt":"2022-02-28T22:25:09","slug":"stop-calling-yourself-a-perfectionist","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/emilyfieldrd.com\/blog\/stop-calling-yourself-a-perfectionist\/","title":{"rendered":"stop calling yourself a perfectionist"},"content":{"rendered":"\t\t<div data-elementor-type=\"wp-post\" data-elementor-id=\"76625\" class=\"elementor elementor-76625\" data-elementor-post-type=\"post\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-bc2fbfa elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"bc2fbfa\" data-element_type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-692b791\" data-id=\"692b791\" data-element_type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-38f9afd elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"38f9afd\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>Calling all my clients \ud83c\udfa4\u00a0 is this thing on?\u2063<br \/>\u2063<br \/>*clears throat*\u2063<br \/>\u2063<br \/>Don\u2019t confuse perfectionist behavior with high achieving behavior. \u2063<br \/>\u2063<br \/>High achievers are dedicated and determined &#8211; we see it all the time in coaching. They are the clients who have a strong desire to accomplish something that&#8217;s important to them. Their achievements are not about what others will think of them or a fear of failure, but to gain personal gratification from their success. \u2063<br \/>\u2063<br \/>Self-proclaimed perfectionists, on the other hand, are not driven by the pursuit of perfection, they&#8217;re driven by the avoidance of failure. true perfectionists aren&#8217;t really trying to be perfect, they are avoiding *not being good enough*\u2063. They are so afraid of failing that they keep finding flaws to perfect &#8211; but since absolute perfection doesn\u2019t exist they never stop.<br \/>\u2063<br \/>Are you pursuing goals with a perfectionist mindset? Maybe you\u2019re striving for more in a never ending loop. Exhausting! Here are some things I see:\u2063<br \/>\u2063<br \/>&gt;&gt; you can not accept or celebrate your success\u2063<br \/>&gt;&gt; you don\u2019t allow yourself any mistakes\u2063<br \/>&gt;&gt; you put up a front, insisting everything is perfect\u2063<br \/>&gt;&gt; you stay in your \u201csafe zone\u201d, avoid taking on challenges that may lead to failure \u2063<br \/>\u2063<br \/>So, can you beat perfectionism?\u2063<br \/>\u2063<br \/>Totally &#8211; the mind is incredibly powerful. 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High achievers are dedicated &#038; determined. 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